ABOUT
FIND A CHRISTIAN MAN
Helping Christian women approach dating,
relationships, and preparation for marriage
with faith, wisdom, and discernment.
Finding a Man Isn’t the Most Important Thing
There is nothing wrong with desiring marriage. Marriage is God’s design, and the desire to share your life with a godly man can be a very real desire of your heart. But as Christian women, finding a man cannot become more important than following Jesus Christ. Before we consider who might be right for us, we need to be firmly rooted in the One who saved us, loves us, leads us, and knows exactly what we need.
Find A Christian Man exists because navigating dating and relationships requires more than attraction, chemistry, and good intentions. It requires wisdom and discernment. A man can say that he loves God, attend church, know Scripture, and still not demonstrate the character and spiritual fruit that should be present in the life of a man who follows Christ. We want to help women learn to look beyond what is said and prayerfully pay attention to what a man’s life consistently reveals.
FACM is also about preparing ourselves. We cannot spend all our time examining whether a man is ready for marriage without allowing God to work in us as well. Our relationship with God, character, emotional and spiritual maturity, communication, boundaries, forgiveness, and willingness to grow all matter. If God leads us into marriage, we want to enter that covenant prepared to love, serve, communicate, forgive, grow, and build a life in which Jesus Christ is Head.
Most importantly, this is a place where we will continually point you back to God. Whether you are dating, waiting, discerning a relationship, preparing for marriage, or realizing that someone isn’t right for you, seek Him first. Marriage is a wonderful blessing, but it was never meant to take the place in our hearts that belongs to God alone.
“Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.”
Matthew 6:33 (NLT)
What You’ll Find Here
Biblical Discernment
Learning to look beyond attraction, chemistry, words, and appearances and pay attention to character, fruit, wisdom, and consistency.
Faith & Spiritual Growth
Encouragement to keep growing in Christ, strengthen your relationship with God, pray, trust His direction, and follow His Will.
Preparing for Healthy Relationships
Practical biblical teaching about relationships, communication, boundaries, character, conflict, and preparing for marriage before saying “I do.”
WHAT WE BELIEVE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
A Relationship Should Never Require You to Compromise Your Walk with God
A relationship with a man should never pull you away from Jesus Christ. You should not have to lower your standards, ignore what God has shown you in His Word, silence your convictions, or repeatedly make excuses for behavior you know is not right simply because you want the relationship to work. If maintaining a relationship requires you to compromise your obedience to God, the cost is too high.
This is one of the reasons discernment matters so much. Character matters. Spiritual fruit matters. How a man treats you and other people matters. How he responds when he is wrong, disappointed, angry, or told no matters. It is easy to focus on how someone makes us feel when things are going well, but wisdom also pays attention to what his life consistently reveals over time.
FACM is not here to teach women how to get a man at any cost, nor do we believe marriage is promised to every believer. Marriage is a covenant and should be approached prayerfully, wisely, and with a willingness to follow God’s direction—even when His direction is not what we hoped it would be. Sometimes discernment confirms that a relationship is worth continuing. Sometimes it tells us to slow down, ask better questions, establish boundaries, or walk away.
If God leads you into marriage, the goal is not simply to have a wedding or finally be able to say that you have found someone. The goal is to build a marriage that honors God. Both husband and wife will still be growing, learning, and being transformed by the Holy Spirit, but Jesus Christ must be Head of the marriage. No relationship is worth sacrificing the place that belongs to Him.
Keep Following Jesus
Whether you are dating, waiting, discerning a relationship, or preparing for marriage, keep following Jesus. Stay close to Him, seek His wisdom, and trust His direction for your life. Marriage may be a wonderful blessing, but your life in Christ is not on hold while you wait. Keep growing, keep serving, and keep seeking God’s Will. Jesus Christ is worthy of first place in your life.
