Find A Christian Man

Category: Devotions

Christ-centered devotions for the everyday places where faith meets real life. Find biblical encouragement, practical wisdom, and reminders of God’s truth to help you grow in Christ, trust Him more deeply, and live out your faith wherever this season finds you.

  • When Love Turns Sour

    When Love Turns Sour

    One of the lessons that we quickly learn as adults is that relationships require work, and sometimes lots of it. Most of us conclude that we grossly underestimated just how much work it takes to make a relationship last. When we’re dating, we might find ourselves being the one that makes an ample investment into the man’s life, and sometimes that investment isn’t equally reciprocated. Thinking about walking away is very challenging, but we must be clear that mishandling things at this vulnerable juncture is never wise. The love we had for this man can sour and turn to bitterness. When that happens, our own fellowship with God is in jeopardy. We lose the heart and authority to be an effective witness of Christ in the life of someone that we could have influenced and impacted profoundly for God’s Kingdom. This is dangerous, and we really need to think things through.

    In Luke 17:1-4(NLT), Jesus Christ taught the disciples, “1There will always be temptations to sin, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting! 2 It would be better to be thrown into the sea with a millstone hung around your neck than to cause one of these little ones to fall into sin. 3 So watch yourselves! “If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive. 4 Even if that person wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, you must forgive.”

    In this passage, “one of these little ones” is a person that God has predestined as one of His own. Some believe that he is referring to young children only, but Jesus is referring to all God’s children, especially those that are just getting started  in the Word and learning the Way. All of us are offended at some point, this is true, but Jesus warns that woe is the fate of someone that causes spiritual infants to become so offended in the faith that they fall into sin.

    Many of us claim to have our eyes so steadfastly fixed upon the Master, but when a man comes into our lives, some of us forget who we are. Meeting someone new and having a relationship with him is not a time to let our stand on the solid rock to slip, especially when we’re not clear about what we’re working with while dating. Our eyes must be fixed upon Jesus Christ no matter who is in our lives or what our agendas may be. God commands us in 1Corinthians 16:13(NKJV) to “Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong.” We can never let our guards down in a relationship. The love of Christ should be our first priority, and it must be the lasting witness we leave on anyone we meet.

    James 1:22(NLT) tells us, “But don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.” We can be sure of one thing; the love of God in Christ never sours. If we’re unsure about that truth, we’re fooling ourselves. We’re obligated by Christ to love others with his brand of love, not our own. 1Corinthians 13:4 tells us that his love—real, true, authentic love—is forgiving, kind, keeps no record of being wronged and doesn’t demand its own way. If this isn’t the love we’re prepared to give to the man we desire, it isn’t the love we should expect to receive.

    It’s entirely possible that “One of these little ones” is the person we’re dating, and if we place our agenda ahead of God’s agenda for their lives, we’re not behaving like doers of the Word but deceiving ourselves. It’s our responsibility as believers to guard our hearts so that we don’t get out of pocket and change the trajectory of a man’s relationship with God. We must pray for this not to happen so that we are the kind of witnesses God is pleased with.

    Ephesians 6:11(NKJV) tells us, “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” It would be naïve of us to think that the enemy will not try to make our hearts, or the hearts of our boyfriends, sour in our relationships. We should know that this is his target, and if we allow him to win in one relationship, we will most likely do it in others. God offers us a better way and it is to put on the whole armor that He provides. We must be diligent to renew our minds and put on the mind of Christ, so that if our hearts grow sour in any relationship we are blessed to cultivate, we will turn them to the sweetness of Christ through forgiveness, patience, and a desire to always put God first. ■

    Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “When Love Turns Sour”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • The Harvest is Great, but the Workers Are Few

    The Harvest is Great, but the Workers Are Few

    Matthew 9:37-38(NLT)
    “He said to his disciples, “The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields.””

    The word, “harvest” is a very good one, and a good harvest is a very beautiful thing. Harvest is connected to increase, and increase is what many of us are praying to receive in this season of our lives. Jesus Christ tells us in Matthew 9:38 to pray to the Lord that is in charge of the harvest, and he doesn’t stop there. He tells us exactly what we ought to be praying for. We should be praying that God will send more workers in the field. Jesus also makes it plain to us that our Heavenly Father is the Owner of the harvest, the fields, and the workers, and this is a very important piece of knowledge for us to have.

    During the time in which he walked the earth, in Matthew 9:37, Jesus Christ told the disciples that the harvest was great, but the workers that were needed to bring in the harvest were few. This is very much the condition of our time as well. There is so much confusion and despair in the world today. It’s chaotic and dark, with divisions and strife everywhere. People desperately need the kind of direction and guidance that our God can give, and it’s our responsibility and privilege to share the saving grace of our Father in Heaven. We might think to ourselves, “It’s not that many people out there that truly want to know about Jesus.” None of us can really say whether this is true or not, but even if this number is shrinking, as followers of Christ, it isn’t our concern.

    God is in charge of the harvest. He takes care of that. Our responsibility is to do as He has commanded. We must make sure that we haven’t missed a beat when it comes to following the Holy Spirit’s promptings, and that as laborers in God’s fields, we have used our span of influence to bless and uplift according to the Spirit’s direction. There should be no doubt in our minds that discipleship is extremely important to backing our faith and positioning ourselves to please God.

    Jesus Christ told the disciples in Mark 16:15(NLT), “Go into all the world and preach the Good News to everyone.” This is the Great Commission, to share the Gospel, make disciples of those who want to accept Christ, and teach them so they can be filled with the Holy Spirit. This is how we partner with God, and 2Corinthians 6:1(NLT) says, “As God’s partners, we beg you not to accept this marvelous gift of God’s kindness and then ignore it.” When we have accepted the gift of salvation, we can’t ignore it by keeping it to ourselves. It’s the love of God in Christ! We are required to share it. This is the one crucial truth that many single believers miss.

    We must understand that a heart that is eager and diligent to carry forth the Great Commission is the same heart that God requires in a man and woman before they marry. The harvest, the field, and the workers all belong to our Heavenly Father, and 1Corinthians 3:9 tells us that we are both God’s workers and His field. So, it’s not about our agendas, it’s about God’s Will and plan. 1Corinthians 3:7 says that the one who plants aren’t more important than the One who waters. Our Heavenly Father is our everything! It’s all about Him, and when we commit ourselves to the work that He’s called us to do, we will witness a harvest in every area of our lives.■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “The Harvest is Great, but the Workers Are Few”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • The Vision of Your Destiny

    The Vision of Your Destiny

    Silhouette of a woman lifting her hands in praise to God.

    Hebrews 11:6 (NLT)
    “And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him.”

    Dating today isn’t what it was 50 years ago. The days when a couple decided to take their time and get to know each other before becoming more than friends seems like ancient history. Many single women say that the men they’re meeting simply aren’t interested in having a significant long-term relationship that leads to marriage. These women are wondering about their futures and if finding a compatible mate is something that is going to happen for them.

    We can’t hide from the reality that many Christian women have been praying a very long time to cross paths with the man God sends. They want to share their lives with a man that can love them genuinely and desires to spend his life with them. We need to get back to the basics of faith and remind ourselves that God is the One that has placed the desire for marriage in our hearts. Philippians 2:13(NLT) tells us, “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” It’s a challenge for many of us to trust that this desire comes from God, and this is one of the reasons that we try to control everything.

    Proverbs 16:9(NLT) says, “We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.” We’ve tried many strategies to get us down that aisle on our wedding day, but many of those are out of step with God’s Will and plan. Our destinies belong to Him and He’s the One that has set them. When we try to place ourselves in a seat that belongs to Him alone, we set ourselves back instead of moving ourselves forward. This is one of the lessons that singleness teaches us.

    God wants you to be over the moon fulfilled and happy, and He wants you to have a healthy and loving relationship with someone that loves you like Jesus Christ loves the church. It’s also very important to our Heavenly Father that we partner with a man that is supportive of our union with Christ. This is a person that will help us to grow spiritually stronger, and we will help him do the same. The problem is that for many of us, this isn’t our priority. We’re more interested in things that have nothing to do with the quality of a man’s heart. Sometimes, we’re just looking for the wrong things, and we’re all too willing to accept the wrong things and people into our lives.

    This can never equal the destiny that God has set for us. The psalmist said in Psalm 138:8(NLT), “The LORD will work out his plans for my life–for your faithful love, O LORD, endures forever.” We must get into the practice of praying more to receive the vision of the destiny God has planned for us than we pray about any other thing. Marriage for the rest of our days on earth is only a tiny sliver of a moment compared to the eternity we will spend with the Father. We need to prioritize the things of His Kingdom first. We must diligently seek God, not for what we can receive from Him, but we must seek Him because He is worthy to be sought. He knows the timeline of every detail of your marriage. It’s under His control. Trust this with all your heart and do all that you can to show our Heavenly Father that you are thankful and blessed to have a relationship with Him and a destiny that is anchored in the Lord Jesus Christ. ■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “The Vision of Your Destiny”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • Be Ready for God’s Answer

    Be Ready for God’s Answer

    Purple abstract background with the words of 2 Corinthians 5:20 written across.
    2 Corinthians 5:20

    John 16:23-24 (NLT)
    “23 At that time you won’t need to ask me for anything. I tell you the truth, you will ask the Father directly, and he will grant your request because you use my name. 24 You haven’t done this before. Ask, using my name, and you will receive, and you will have abundant joy.”

    After the Christmas holidays were over, Sharon and Jason called it quits. Sharon consulted with her spiritual counselor who walks in wisdom regarding God’s Word. She wanted to know if she could’ve taken any actions to prevent the relationship from falling apart. Her counselor told her, “Whether he’s in your life or not, no matter what happens, you must trust God.” This was not the answer Sharon was looking to hear. She was prepared to go to spiritual battle to get Jason back, and the wisdom she had heard from this wise spiritual veteran didn’t convey the fight and urgency she felt her situation warranted.

    They had been together almost two years, and Sharon believed they were headed for marriage. When Jason told her that he wanted to take things slow without the pressure of marriage, it was her first inkling that he wasn’t as devoted as she initially believed. Ultimately, he walked away, and Sharon knew that he didn’t love her the way she had always wanted to be loved. She tried to accept it, but when the thought of being without Jason set in, having him back was the only way she knew to ease her pain.

    God doesn’t want any of His children to go through heartbreak. It can be devastating and once we spend a little time feeling the sting of it, we often sense an urgency to do whatever we can to make the pain go away. However, pining away over a man that doesn’t want to be committed isn’t the answer. Having faith in God is the right answer, and it will forever be the right answer.

    Psalm 146:3(NIV) says, “Do not put your trust in princes, in human beings, who cannot save.” The wisdom of this verse isn’t telling us that we can’t ever trust people. It’s conveying the judgment and discernment we must demonstrate when it comes to understanding His omnipotence and omniscience compared to that of human beings. None of us possess the ability to give eternal life to another individual. We can’t save their souls or extend their years upon this earth. Only God has this power. Psalm 75:6-7(NIV) tells us, “6 No one from the east or the west or from the desert can exalt themselves. 7 It is God who judges: He brings one down, he exalts another.” If we get this twisted in a relationship, and we begin to think a man has the ability to take away our pain or give us more joy than what God has provided through Jesus Christ, we are dabbling in idolatry, and that is exceedingly dangerous territory.

    When we’re faced with heartbreak like Sharon is experiencing with Jason, of course we go to God, and we should. Psalm 147:3(NIV) tells us, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” If we trust Him with our brokenness, He will help us grow in wisdom and endurance so that we do not continually choose men that will hurt and leave us, but this is not what many of us want. We want the man that wounded us, even though he has not treated or loved us the way God wants us to be loved. It’s in this state of denial that some of us will ask the Father if He will bring the man back to us.

    As mature women, we have to know that if we ask our Great Big Wonderful God a question, He is going to answer us. Either through a spiritual counselor that is wise in His Word or through the voice of His Spirit, we will receive a Word that cuts through all the pain and administers truth. This is what Sharon received. It’s never about the man. It’s always about our level of faith and trust in God. It’s about how we’ve prioritized our relationship with Him during the times we were in a relationship with a man and without one.

    Our precious Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, told us John 16:23-24 that we can ask anything in his name, and the Father will do it. This is God’s promise, but if we ask for a prayer to be answered in the name of Jesus Christ, it means that we’ve asked for a request that is according to God’s Will. Not our will, but God’s Will. We don’t get to tell God that we know what man is right for our lives. He tells us, and when we ask Him, we shouldn’t look for His answer to always be what we want to hear. We must be ready to hear that our commitment to Him must grow stronger, that we must have greater faith, and we need to be patient and surrender our will for His. ■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “Be Ready for God’s Answer”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • The Prince of Peace

    The Prince of Peace

    words, Prince of Peace, Everlasting Father, Mighty God, Wonderful Counselor

    God’s extraordinary prophecy in Isaiah 9:6(KJV) proclaims, “For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” Undoubtedly, many of God’s people were taught this Old Testament scripture as it was passed down from generation to generation. The manifestation of it then landed in the Gospels, as the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, finally came! Mary, the woman who was engaged to Joseph, was a willing vessel. The angel, Gabriel, gave her the Good News that the Holy Spirit would come upon her and the power of the Most High would overshadow her. She would give birth to a son named Jesus, who would be very great and the Son of God. Luke 1:38(NLT) tells us that her response was, “I am the Lord’s servant. May everything you have said about me come true.”

    In Luke 1:28, the angel, Gabriel, called Mary, highly favored one, blessed among women. Our Heavenly Father knew every detail of Mary’s and Joseph’s lives and future. He knew they would be good parents for His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, and He chose them for this esteemed honor. Our precious Lord and Savior left the throne of God to come to earth, and although he is deity, Jesus came as a human being. If our all-powerful, all-knowing God had wanted Jesus Christ to come to earth as a fully-grown man, then it would have been done this way, but that was not the case. Jesus was born from a mother’s womb like us. As a baby, he allowed himself to be one of the most vulnerable creatures on earth, and with a watchful eye, God entrusted his care to Mary and Joseph.

    A Son is given
    Before he left the throne of the Most High, Our blessed Redeemer, Jesus Christ, had not taken human form. He was indeed God’s Son, but our Heavenly Father’s plan for the redemption of humanity meant that His Son had to be given. He had to take on the form of a human being and become like us in order to save us. Hebrews 9:22(NLT) says, “In fact, according to the law of Moses, nearly everything was purified with blood. For without the shedding of blood, there is no forgiveness.” According to God’s Law, our sin makes us guilty, because our sin is rebellion against God and His Word. Romans 6:23 tells us that the penalty or cost of sin is death, and this was the weight and curse we carried before Christ came to the earth.

    Romans 5:12(NLT) says, “When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. Adam’s sin brought death, so death spread to everyone, for everyone sinned.” Our sin made us enemies of God, and we desperately needed a Savior to restore our friendship with Heavenly Father and to rescue us from sin and death. We couldn’t do this for ourselves, so God sent His Son. 1John 4:10(NLT) declares, “This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.” Jesus came to the earth not as an angel, but as a man who shed his blood and died an agonizing death on the cross so that we could be made righteous and live eternally with God.

    The government shall be upon his shoulder
    When Adam sinned against God, he transferred everything God had given him to satan, including his dominion and authority in the earth. Ephesians 6:11-12(NLT) tells us, “11 Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. 12 For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” Wars, rumors of wars, poverty, violence, wickedness, crime, chaos, confusion, and cruelty, these and all other remnants of darkness and destruction are a result of satan’s influence over our world. Right now, the government isn’t upon the shoulder of our King, Jesus Christ, but one day it will be.

    Philippians 2:10-11(NLT) proclaims, “10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, 11 and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.” In the world today, every knee has not bowed, and every tongue has not confessed that Jesus Christ is Lord, quite the contrary. In these modern times, people are finding new ways to rebel and reject God and His Word, but one day this will all cease. On that glorious day when our Lord and Master returns to the earth, he will set up his Kingdom, a Kingdom that will never end. The government will be on his shoulder, and it will be a government of his peace, love, joy, and power.

    Wonderful, Counsellor
    Jesus Christ is our wonderful counsellor, and he is so deserving of this title. There isn’t a detail about any aspect of our lives that he doesn’t know, and he wants to help us with any problems or obstacles we may face. Hebrews 4:14-15(NLT) tells us, “14 So then, since we have a great High Priest who has entered heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we believe. 15 This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin.” Jesus Christ is our Mediator and Advocate, and he’s a member of the Most Holy Council of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

    So often we face situations in life that confound us. It seems that there isn’t a solution, but that is never the case. Jesus is the answer to all our problems. He invites us in Matthew 11:28-30(NLT), “28 Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.” Jesus paid the price for our sins because he loves us so much. He deserves to be the first resource we turn to, not the last. Whether it’s mental, emotional, physical or spiritual, through our faith in him, he will help us to overcome.

    The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace
    Romans 5:1(NLT) tells us, “Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.” We grossly underestimate the level of gratitude that our God deserves for rescuing us from death and darkness through His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ. No one could do for us what God sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to accomplish on the earth. The awe, majesty, honor, praise, and glory that we should have for the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit should far exceed the adoration and devotion we have for any other person or thing. Jesus Christ is the Prince of Peace, and because he is, our hope in him will never disappoint us, because he has all power and authority. He is King of kings and Lord of lords, and one day the whole world will know it!■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “The Prince of Peace”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • Thankful and Blessed

    Thankful and Blessed

    words grateful, thankful, blessed

    The airport had lost Vanessa’s luggage. It was a mad house, and she was exhausted. Headed home to Atlanta for Thanksgiving, nothing about her trip had gone as planned. She murmured to herself in utter disgust, “Why does this always happen to me.” Seven hours delayed, frustrated, and still waiting with others for more information about her bags, she stole a small space near baggage claim where she could call her mom without being shoved or rushed. With her purse slung across her body, and her carry-on glued to her right arm, she took a breath, finagled her phone and pushed, “MOM”. She was missing the pre-thanksgiving family gathering that started three-hours ago. Acquiescing to an unrelenting delay, she had told her mom earlier to start things without her, and she would call when her flight landed. There was no answer. She tried again, and again, but still no answer.

    Aggravation, disappointment, and exhaustion were brewing a heavy concoction. It was in her throat, and she felt the weight of it rising through her face. Her eyes began to water, and she sniffled. The reality that full-blown water works at the baggage claim of all places were about to hit snapped her back into consciousness. Vanessa clandestinely swiped her eyes, gathered herself, and just as she was about to dial her mother again, a thought popped into her mind. “I’ll rent a car.” And off she went.

    She prayed that a car would be available, and after it was secured and her baggage was located at another terminal, Vanessa allowed herself a few minutes of calm before bracing Atlanta traffic. Her Uncle Charlie’s face flashed across her mind as she took a left turn off the ramp, and she couldn’t help but smile. She knew she was home when she heard his laugh. He was always teasing them all, and boy could he sing. He loved her mom’s sweet potato pie, and Vanessa could almost taste it as she savored the thought of sitting at the table with a big ol’ slice of it and a tall glass of ice-cold milk. She was happy to be home, and a delayed trip gave way to an even deeper gratitude for how richly God had blessed her.

    God always makes a way, and He never fails. When we forget this, life has a way of slowing us down so we can remember it. The more we learn about God through His Word, the deeper our well of gratitude should become. But so often, we focus on ourselves and on what we don’t have instead of being thankful to God for what we do have. We get caught up with the hiccups and mishaps of life, and we spend so little time mediating on God’s goodness and thanking Him for all He has done. Ephesians 1:5(NLT) says, “God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.” Our Heavenly Father is the One True Living God. He’s the Creator of all that we survey. His power is unequalled and has no end, and He has chosen us, mere mortals, to call His very own.

    John 3:16(NKJV) tells us, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” Our Heavenly Father made us His children through the sacrifice and resurrection of Jesus Christ, and He tells us in Ephesians 1:3 that He has blessed us with all spiritual blessings because we are united with Jesus Christ. Even if we lived ten million years, it still would not be long enough to repay Him for His kindness towards us. And if we lived seven times that, we still would not have reached the depth of God’s love. He’s awesome and amazing, and our response to Him should never be less than overwhelming faith and gratitude.

    When things don’t go as we plan, many of us become upset and allow a bad attitude or disappointment to take us away from a grateful heart. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18(NLT) tells us, “16 Rejoice evermore. 17 Pray without ceasing. 18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” God doesn’t expect us to give thanks for tragedies. He expects us to give thanks for His delivering power and ability to bring us through any situation victoriously. He wants us to give thanks for salvation and the Holy Spirit who lives inside us. And He expects us to give thanks for all the things He has accomplished for us through the life, sacrifice, and resurrection of His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ. God’s goodness never ends. His love endures forever, and for this and so much more, come what may, we must be thankful that He’s forever our God, and we’re forever His children. ∎

    Holy Bible, New Living Translation copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

    New King James Version, © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. All rights reserved. Used by permission.

    “Thankful and Blessed”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • You Won’t Be Disappointed

    You Won’t Be Disappointed

    Mark 11:23-24(NKJV)
    “23 For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. 24 Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.”

    Many single women of every race and socioeconomic background desire a good man, and they are willing to go the distance to secure this blessing for their lives. It used to be that meeting someone new would happen at the frequent and familiar places in a person’s life, like the grocery store, church, gym, or work. Of course, this can still happen, but nowadays, meeting someone at your fingertips through the speed of internet dating is more common. Along with this, there are also many other options out there that give us quick access to eligible bachelors, but the reality is that often, the disappointments can be as plentiful as the opportunities those options present. This is the downside we sometimes neglect to consider.

    Heartbreak and disappointment have become so common in significant relationships that we almost expect them to happen, and some of us consider it an enigma when neither of them occurs. As women, our radars are always up because we expect infidelity and all the pain that comes with it. So, even though we look all cool, calm, and collected, our guards are always up. We’ve become adept at surveillance and monitoring, because we’re always on the lookout for stuff that might cause heartache down the road. We bring this with us when we meet someone new, and we remain on alert during dating. We’re looking for any evidence that might come back to hurt us.

    This is the learned behavior of fear. We either saw it in the women around us, or we picked it up after being heartbroken so many times ourselves. When this is our mode of operating, we never give faith a chance. It’s the same ol’ story. We begin with fear, we end with fear. We’ve got to know that this isn’t what God wants for us.

    Jesus Christ said in Matthew 6:33-34(NLT), “33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. 34 “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Fear can make an entrance in a relationship when we don’t live in the present but worry about what is going to happen to us in the future. It’s an inevitability when we choose to bypass God’s way and begin to seek out potential candidates for dating and marriage ourselves. This is a risk that can lead to disappointment because we are not walking by faith but taking matters into our own hands. Some women might vehemently deny that they are doing this. They will say they are doing what is necessary to back their faith. If our commitment is to back our faith with good works, the best way to do this is to seek God and allow Him to take care of all the details while we continue to be a blessing to others.

    Our faith must be firmly planted in the reality that God is in control. Our lives belong to Him, and He knows the plans He has for us. Our Heavenly Father never makes mistakes. Matthew 6:33 affirms that seeking God first is paramount, and if we’re seeking Him, we won’t have room to seek anyone else. He alone deserves our total focus, and when this is where our hearts campout, He promises to supply all our needs, including a partner to walk with us through life.

    God’s blessings are pleasant and good for us. When He adds greater blessings to your life, you won’t be disappointed. You won’t need to be on guard about whether you will be left in a worse predicament for having received it. Nor will you need to question whether it is right for you. Jeremiah 17:7-8(ESV) declares, “Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.” Our Heavenly Father will bless us according to His divine Will. If we place our trust in His provision and do what He says to fulfill our call, our spouses will cross our paths, and our marriages will continually be fruitful and blessed.■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    English Standard Version (ESV)
    The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

    “You Won’t Be Disappointed”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • Your Happiness in God Alone

    Your Happiness in God Alone

    God is my rescue

    1Corinthians 7:38-40(NLT)
    “So the person who marries his fiancée does well, and the person who doesn’t marry does even better.  39 A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but only if he loves the Lord. 40 But in my opinion it would be better for her to stay single, and I think I am giving you counsel from God’s Spirit when I say this.”

    After reading this passage, you might come away thinking that God prefers that believers remain single, but this isn’t the case. While it’s true that there are many advantages to remaining single, there are just as many to the ministry of marriage. God has given us free-will, and we get to choose which one is right for the kind of life we want to live. The Apostle Paul’s counsel in 1Corinthians 7:38-40 goes to the heart of our purpose as children of God and brothers and sisters of Christ. He’s instructing us about both service to God as well as marriage, and there’s no question that in this passage, he is prioritizing service to our Heavenly Father.

    King Solomon affirms the importance of prioritizing our relationship and responsibilities to God in Ecclesiastes 12:13(NLT). He said, “That’s the whole story. Here now is my final conclusion: Fear God and obey his commands, for this is everyone’s duty.” This is the Will of God for us, but we have allowed the pull of all the distractions of modern times to occupy our minds and hearts. We live in a very different time and our culture is far away from the kind of dedication and honor towards God that believers had two thousand years ago. Worship, praise, and service to our Heavenly Father was not only their lifestyle, they viewed it as their livelihood, occupation, and recreation. Many of us haven’t quite seen it this way.

    In several of the epistles, Paul refers to himself as a slave to God and to Jesus Christ. He was fully persuaded in the Lord and dedicated his entire life to serving God. Today, our schedules are packed, and our agendas are to work and take care of all the many things on our plates. The truth that God teaches us through Paul is that it’s better to simplify our lives as much as possible, so that our walk with Heavenly Father is unencumbered with the cares of the world.

    Marriage will bring new complexities and complications. Because our hearts are so heavily invested, these can potentially take our focus off God and off the business of His Kingdom. When this happens, our relationship with Heavenly Father, our faith, and our spiritual growth can slip to second place. This will cause further unhappiness because God is the glue that holds a marriage together, and our relationship with Him must be prioritized correctly. He tells us to put Jesus Christ in the highest place of leadership in the marriage. When this isn’t done, and we take our focus off Jesus, things begin to unravel.

    All of us have probably known women that are unhappy being single. They want to meet someone and fall in love. When this finally happens for them, they’re happy for a time, and loves the way the new man makes them feel, but in many situations, this doesn’t last. After that initial phase of newness, some are left feeling as sad as they were before they met this man. This happens when the love of Christ is not the center of our existences. We don’t have the spiritual bandwidth to withstand some of the rigors of relationship. Our Heavenly Father doesn’t want this happening to any of us. If we remained anchored in Him, a lot of this disappointment and heartache can be avoided.

    Beginning relationships with the best possible footing requires our full faith and confidence in the truth that God is the Source of all happiness. Paul said in Philippians 4:12-13(NLT), “12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.” Paul conveys his ability to handle whatever comes his way. Whether he has a lot or a little, he succeeds because of the strength that Christ gives him. We are no different. We are empowered through our Lord and Savior, and to remain in his strength, we must submit wholeheartedly to God.

    We must recognize that every good thing that we accomplish in life has Christ at the center of it, and this includes marriage. We make a mistake when we think that another human being can be the source of our happiness when only the Lord can. Marriage is indeed a blessing from God. It requires that faith isn’t just something we go to at a point where it seems the relationship is fizzling. Faith must be anchored in our minds and hearts before we get into relationships, so that we are not just dating to be dating. When our faith is in God through the Lord Jesus Christ, we date with God’s purpose in mind. We should never want to waste emotional resources becoming invested when the person was never meant our destiny partner.

    1John 5:4(NLT) tells us, “For every child of God defeats this evil world, and we achieve this victory through our faith.” Victory is when we are prepared through Jesus Christ to stand on the Word of God no matter the plots, tricks, and traps the enemy sends against us and our unions. When our faith is firmly anchored in God, we can stand strong.

    Now is the time to be honest in your assessment of your faith. If your happiness is not in God alone, you must change your agenda, because it should be about pleasing God with your whole life. Understand that He will take care of every detail of our happiness when our faith is firmly planted in Him. So, if there’s any possibility that you are not where you need to be in the faith, pray and get into God’s Word more, then watch as He rewards your increased commitment to put Him first. ■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    English Standard Version (ESV)
    The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

    “Your Happiness in God Alone”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • Let Your Love for God Be Genuine

    Let Your Love for God Be Genuine

    After reminiscing one day about a past relationship with one of my sisters in Christ, she phoned me with a question. “Kim, you said something the other day that I don’t quite understand. You said that I should never give a man that I’m dating husband privileges.” She told me that this was the way she had always approached relationships, and it is what she’s seen from other women as well. We’re living in a completely different day and time. Choosing the wrong man can literally destroy your life because the wrong man is sent to put a wedge between you and our relationship with Heavenly Father. So, I conveyed to her the wisdom of Ephesians 5:25(NKJV), “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her.” Only a man sent by God can love a woman that way, so if God hasn’t given us the greenlight that the man we’re dealing with is the one that He sent, we need to press the pause button.

    Keep your heart

    Proverbs 4:23(NKJV) tells us to, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” Whether we know it or not, our hearts belong to God. In truth, all that we are belongs to Him. In Proverbs 4:23, He is teaching us to be good stewards of our hearts, because our hearts determine the issues of life. Our Heavenly Father is not going to throw out all the bad stuff in our hearts, He tells us to do this. He’s given us free-will to make our own choices and decisions, and the very best thing we can do for ourselves is to do some housekeeping when it comes to our own hearts.

    We are the keepers of our own hearts. God warns us to steward them well. This means we must do our due diligence in making sure our hearts are filled with God’s love, because that is what’s most important to Him. A heart that pleases God is one where our love for Him is above our love for all others and everything else. He deserves this place of honor and much more because He is our Creator, and He gave His only begotten Son to rescue us from sin and darkness.

    In 1Samuel 16:7(NLT), God said to His prophet, Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” No human being can know what is in another’s heart, but God knows all our hearts. He knows who and what we value most because He can investigate our hearts and see this. He also knows that our actions will follow what we value. We get up every morning and go to work because we value the paycheck and believe it improves the quality of our lives. We read and study God’s Word because we value the knowledge it gives us. We pray to God because we value God’s love and power and believe in His willingness to help us. Everything we do in life reflects what we value in our hearts, and to please God and keep them according to His standard, we must make sure our hearts are filled with His love.

    The treasure in your heart

    Jesus Christ said in Matthew 6:20-21(NLT), “20 Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. 21Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” This passage prompts us to examine what we are treasuring in our hearts. Some of us want to have a man so badly that we are willing to do just about anything to keep him. We assume this mindset because we have placed a high value on having a man. So, when God looks at our hearts, that’s what He sees. He sees that we are willing to disobey Him and obey the evil one who tempts us to sin through the man. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 6:19 that if our treasure is laid up in keeping the man through sin, the thief, who is the devil, will break that relationship and steal the joy of it away from us.

    2Chronicles 16:9(NLT) says, “The eyes of the LORD search the whole earth in order to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to him.” God is looking for hearts that are fully committed to Him. We don’t have to be perfect, but our love for God must be untainted. Some might call you old fashioned for taking a Godly approach, but we should never allow the words of others to hinder us from standing on God’s Word.

    The Lord knows our needs and desires. He knows us better than we could ever know ourselves, and He knows when and how to bless us. This includes the blessing of a man that He sends to walk with us through life. Understand that God is looking at your heart. Please be sure your love for Him is genuine, because it’s not enough to say that it is. Your love for Him will be put to the test, and you must have the patience and endurance to always choose to love God with all that you are, and you must love Him more than you love anyone else. When you do, your commitment to Him will be rewarded, and you will love the right man with the same commitment, loyalty, patience and grace that he has for you.■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “Let Your Love for God Be Genuine”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

  • A Heart Consumed with the Love of Christ

    A Heart Consumed with the Love of Christ

    “One of the Pharisees asked Jesus to have dinner with him, so Jesus went to his home and sat down to eat. 37 When a certain immoral woman from that city heard he was eating there, she brought a beautiful alabaster jar filled with expensive perfume. 38 Then she knelt behind him at his feet, weeping. Her tears fell on his feet, and she wiped them off with her hair. Then she kept kissing his feet and putting perfume on them.”
    Luke 7:36-38(NLT)

    God has given us many gifts and blessings, but the one thing He hasn’t given any of us is the ability to see into another person’s heart. Only He can do that. The only way that you and I can know an individual’s heart is if he or she reveals it to us. Often, they do so at the most unassuming times. We can see who a person is at their very cores by their actions. Intentionally cutting someone off while driving, taking a parking space that someone was waiting on, hurting the feelings of others by refusing to filter out negativity; these are just a few actions that tell us that the love of God isn’t deeply rooted in a person’s heart. Our true character is the core of who we are, and just like the sinful woman that kissed Jesus’ feet, it will always be exposed.

    The woman in this record in Luke 7 was referred to as sinful because of how she chose to make a living. She was believed to be a prostitute and according to Simon, the Pharisee host that day, she had many sins. The Pharisees were vehemently against the teachings of Jesus, so this was not a friendly dinner that he attended, and Simon was a rather rude host. The culture at the time this record was written was such that hospitality was extremely important. There were gestures and practices of etiquette that were always observed, but Simon didn’t honor Jesus according to the usual customs. The woman, however, did. She honored Christ in a way that changed her life.

    When she found out that Jesus was at the Pharisee’s house, she didn’t care what others thought of her. She needed to see him, and she put her love for Jesus on full display. She washed his feet with her tears, dried them with her hair, kissed his feet continually and anointed them with ointment. Jesus Christ knew of her past sin, and in normal circumstances, had he been another prophet, she would not have been allowed to touch him. Our beloved Lord and Savior, the Son of the Living God, showed her and us that he is touchable. He forgave her sins that day because he saw her heart.

    Simon thought Jesus Christ had done the wrong thing by this woman, but Jesus Christ set him straight. Luke 7:44-47(NLT) says, “44 Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. 47 Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.”

    Like the woman in this record, all of us have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Every person that Jesus Christ met during his sojourn on earth was a sinner, and he came to deliver us all from the bondage of darkness. As single women, we must recognize that God is looking at our hearts. He’s looking to see if we have the kind of heart that will honor Christ over a man and the man’s desire for sexual sin outside of marriage. Will we put Christ first is always the question, and our actions to do so will always reveal the answer.

    God commands us in Colossians 2:7(NLT), “Let your roots grow down into him, and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness.” Our roots are our cores, and to be anchored in Christ is to let our roots grow down into him, so that every aspect of our being is saturated in his love. It is to be committed to God’s Word and to be unmovable on it, no matter who comes into our lives.

    Our Heavenly Father desires us to live according to His standard, and He looks at our hearts, because they tell the true story about how genuine our love for Him really is. 1Corinthians 4:20 tells us that the Kingdom of God is not just a lot of talk, it’s power! It’s everything to us, and we must live in a way that conveys we believe and honor this. Jesus Christ said in John 14:21(NLT), “Those who accept my commandments and obey them are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them.” Let’s remember this always. If we live by it, we can be confident that when God looks our hearts, He’ll see them consumed with the love of Christ, and this means they are open to receive all that He has in store. ■

    Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

    “A Heart Consumed with the Love of Christ”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2024. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.