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When Weariness Tries to Set In—What You Must Remember in Christ

You’re Not Meant to Live Drained When You’ve Been Made Alive in Christ

Galatians 6:9 (NLT) tells us, “Don’t get weary in doing good, for at the proper time you will reap a harvest if you do not give up.” That verse sounds like strength—it calls us to keep fighting the good fight of faith. It feels like a hand reaching out right when we need it most. But let’s be real—during those times when our emotions are sinking, loneliness is hitting hard, and we’re running on empty, “don’t get weary” can feel like a real struggle.

And if we’re honest, for many—especially in seasons of singleness—that kind of weariness doesn’t always announce itself; it slips in quietly. You can still be smiling, still showing up, still saying the right things, all while something on the inside is getting tired of waiting. It shows up in the silence, in the questions you don’t always say out loud, in that inward wondering—God, is this really going to happen the way I’ve been holding onto it in my heart? And now you’re not just waiting—you’re wrestling to stay anchored while you wait.

But here’s what we have to come back to—weariness may visit, but it was never meant to stay.

Jesus Christ tells us in John 10:10 that He came so that we would have life—and have it more abundantly. That kind of life isn’t surface-level or dependent on circumstances. It’s spiritual first. Because the truth is, you cannot sustain an abundant life outwardly if your inner life is running empty. Everything flows from that place. And if we don’t get anchored within, we’ll keep trying to solve spiritual depletion with natural solutions—and that will never hold.

This is where we have to understand who we really are.

John 3:6 (NLT) reminds us that “Humans can reproduce only human life, but the Holy Spirit gives birth to spiritual life.” That means your identity isn’t rooted in what you feel or what you’re currently experiencing. You are a spirit, made alive in Christ. And that changes everything. Because your spirit—where the Holy Spirit dwells—is not weak, not depleted, and not limited. The tension we feel often comes from allowing our soul to lead while our spirit is trying to guide.

And if we don’t slow down and realign, weariness will keep showing up stronger than it should.

We also have to remember the cost of what was given to us.

Jesus Christ didn’t just come to improve our lives—He completely restored access to the Father. When He gave His life on the cross, the veil in the temple was torn from top to bottom. That wasn’t symbolic—it was decisive. It meant there was no longer separation. No barrier. No distance between us and God. What once required layers of preparation and limitation was opened fully through Him. That kind of access was never meant to sit unused. It was meant to sustain you.

And this is where many of us miss it. We carry the weight of life as if we’re disconnected, as if we have to figure everything out on our own, as if what we’re believing for is uncertain. But when you understand what Christ actually restored, you realize—you’re not waiting from a place of lack. You’re living from a place of access.

That changes how you endure. Because yes, life can be heavy. Yes, the process can stretch you. But Isaiah 40:31 (NLT) reminds us, “Those who trust in the LORD will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles…” That strength isn’t automatic—it’s accessed through trust. Through staying connected. Through choosing to believe God even when your emotions haven’t caught up yet.

And this matters deeply when it comes to what you’re believing Him for—especially in relationships.

You cannot afford to let weariness lower your expectation. You cannot allow time, delay, or past disappointment to reshape what you believe God is able to do in your life. Because the moment weariness starts speaking louder than truth, you’ll find yourself settling—not because it’s what you want, but because you’re tired.

And you were never meant to choose from that place. So yes—acknowledge the weariness when it comes. But don’t partner with it. Don’t let it rewrite your thinking or redefine your expectation. Let it push you back into alignment. Back into truth. Back into the awareness of who you are, whose you are, and what has already been secured through Jesus Christ. Because this isn’t about chasing a fairytale. It’s about walking in what was already made available. And when you stay anchored there, weariness may come—but it won’t be able to stay. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“When Weariness Tries to Set In—What You Must Remember in Christ”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

September 5, 2026
Build Unity Through the Words You Speak

Proverbs 13:3 (NLT)

“Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.”

Words have power, and they can change the course of our relationships. Through the words we speak, we can help to build unity, strengthen trust, encourage someone who is struggling, and bring peace into situations that could very easily go in another direction. We can also do the opposite. Our words can tear people down, create division, deepen hurt, and sometimes damage a relationship in ways that are very difficult to repair. Proverbs 13:3 tells us plainly that opening our mouths can ruin everything. This doesn’t mean we should be afraid to speak. It means we need to recognize that God has given us a responsibility to be careful about what comes out of our mouths.

Jesus Christ tells us in Matthew 12:34 (NLT), “For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.” This is one of the reasons our words tell us so much about where we are spiritually. We can try to dismiss something we’ve said by claiming that we were angry, frustrated, or didn’t really mean it, but Jesus teaches us that our words are connected to what is going on in our hearts. If bitterness has been allowed to sit in our hearts, sooner or later it will show up in our conversations. The same is true of jealousy, resentment, fear, and unforgiveness. We may not like admitting this, but sometimes the things that come out of our mouths are God’s way of showing us that there is something going on inside that we need to bring before Him.

This is especially true when we’ve been hurt in relationships. We can carry the pain of what someone did five or ten years ago into relationships with people who had absolutely nothing to do with it. Before we know it, we’re responding to a person standing in front of us based on something somebody else did years ago. We become suspicious when there is no reason to be suspicious, defensive when no one is attacking us, and angry about things that normally wouldn’t bother us that much. Then we wonder why there is so much tension in the relationship. God doesn’t want us dragging old wounds from one relationship into another. He wants to heal us, and part of that healing has to include the way we think and speak.

Philippians 4:6 (NLT) says, “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” God never tells us to pretend that we don’t have problems or that something doesn’t hurt when it does. He tells us to bring those things to Him. This is important because when we don’t take our worries, frustrations, disappointments, and fears to God, we have a tendency to take them out on other people. We say things we shouldn’t say and respond in ways that don’t represent Jesus Christ. Then, after the damage has been done, we wish we could take those words back.

Isaiah 26:3 (NLT) tells us, “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!” We need God’s peace operating in our hearts because peaceful relationships are not built by people who never disagree. They’re built by people who have learned that every disagreement doesn’t have to become a war. We don’t have to say everything that comes to our minds, and we don’t have to win every argument. Sometimes spiritual maturity looks like recognizing that we’re too angry to have a productive conversation and giving ourselves time to pray and settle down before we speak. There are also times when something absolutely needs to be said, but we need the wisdom of the Holy Spirit to help us say it in a way that produces understanding instead of more division.

Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) says, “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” God is very clear about the standard He has set for our words. He tells us that what we say should be good and helpful, and it should encourage those who hear it. This doesn’t mean that every conversation will be easy or that we should avoid saying things another person may not want to hear. There are times when the truth must be spoken, problems must be addressed, and boundaries must be established. But even then, we don’t have permission to use our words as weapons. Being angry doesn’t give us the right to insult someone, call them names, deliberately say something we know will hurt them, or bring up every mistake they’ve ever made just so we can win an argument. When we belong to Jesus Christ, the way we communicate should demonstrate that He is working in our hearts.

This is something we have to practice, because controlling our tongues doesn’t come automatically. James 1:19-20 (NLT) tells us, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.” Sometimes we’re so busy preparing our response that we haven’t really listened to what the other person is saying. We hear enough to become offended, and immediately we’re ready to defend ourselves. God tells us to do the opposite. He tells us to be quick to listen and slow to speak. There is wisdom in giving ourselves enough time to understand what someone is saying before we decide how we’re going to respond.

This becomes even more important when emotions are high. Some things cannot be unsaid. We can apologize, and certainly we should when we’ve hurt someone, but an apology doesn’t erase the fact that the words were spoken. This is why we need the help of the Holy Spirit in our conversations. We need Him to help us recognize when pride is getting in the way, when anger is taking over, and when we’re about to say something that will cause unnecessary damage. We need to become sensitive enough to His leading that when He tells us to stop talking, we stop. There will be another opportunity to discuss the issue after we’ve prayed, settled ourselves down, and are in a better position to hear one another.

Proverbs 18:21 (NLT) teaches us, “The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” We are going to experience consequences from the way we communicate with people. If criticism, sarcasm, disrespect, complaining, and harshness are continually coming out of our mouths, we cannot expect those things to produce unity. Over time, they create an atmosphere where people don’t feel safe communicating honestly. On the other hand, when people know that they can speak to us without being attacked, mocked, dismissed, or punished for what they say, trust has room to grow. This doesn’t mean there won’t be disagreements. It means disagreement doesn’t have to destroy the relationship.

We also have to be willing to examine ourselves when the same communication problems continue showing up in our relationships. It’s very easy to believe that everybody else is too sensitive, difficult, or always misunderstanding us. There may be times when that is true, but when several people have been hurt by the way we speak to them, wisdom requires us to consider whether God is showing us something about ourselves. Spiritual maturity means that we can humble ourselves enough to say, “Lord, if I’m contributing to this problem, please show me.” We can’t build healthy relationships if we’re unwilling to allow God to correct us.

Colossians 4:6 (NLT) says, “Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.” Grace should be heard in the way God’s people speak. The people closest to us shouldn’t receive the worst of us simply because we know they’ll probably still be there tomorrow. In fact, our closest relationships are where we should be even more mindful of how we communicate. Familiarity should never become an excuse for disrespect. We should want the people we love to know through our words that they are valued, that we’re listening to them, and that even when we disagree, we are committed to treating them in a way that honors God.

Unity doesn’t mean that two people will always think alike, want the same things, or see every situation the same way. That’s not realistic. Unity means that we value the relationship enough to work through our differences without trying to destroy one another in the process. It requires humility, patience, forgiveness, self-control, and sometimes the willingness to admit that we were wrong. All of these are qualities the Holy Spirit develops in us as we grow in Christ, and eventually they should become evident in the way we speak.

Our words are one of the most powerful tools God has given us to strengthen our relationships. We can use them to encourage, reassure, apologize, express gratitude, tell the truth, extend grace, and remind the people we love that they matter to us. We won’t always get it right, but we should be growing. So, pay attention to what comes out of your mouth, especially when you’re frustrated, disappointed, or angry. Ask God to help you recognize anything in your heart that is influencing your words in a way that doesn’t please Him. When our hearts are submitted to Jesus Christ and our words reflect His love and wisdom, we are much better equipped to build the kind of unity in our relationships that honors God.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Build Unity Through the Words You Speak”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2025. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

August 3, 2026
God’s Timing Is Always Perfect

Psalm 27:14(NKJV)
“Wait on the Lord; Be of good courage, And He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!”

This verse in Psalm 27:14 is very simple, but for many believers, it reveals one of the most challenging aspects of the Christian walk, which is simply waiting on the Lord. God is faithful to His Word. He never changes, and He never wavers. When He makes a promise, we can take it to the bank, because God never fails. Most of us claim to know and understand the infallible and perfect nature of God, but when we find ourselves waiting for something we’ve prayed about and deeply desire, we sometimes begin to question what God is doing. We ignore Psalm 27:14 and refuse to be of good courage. We make costly mistakes when we try to take matters into our own hands and abandon patience. Our hearts are strengthened towards God through the wait, and this is a lesson that none of us can afford to skip.

God tells us twice in Psalm 27:14 to wait on Him, and that repetition should get our attention. It emphasizes the importance of what He is telling us. He knows that patience is a struggle for most human beings, particularly in our modern day. The conveniences of technology and just about everything else in this age cater to an ‘on the double’ mentality. Our attention spans are not nearly as long as they once were, and some of us have no concept of what it means to patiently endure. God’s standard of patience for His children has not changed, and He will not allow us to bypass this crucial element of the example of Christ.

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is to leave everything in God’s hands and wait for His divine timing. The challenge that most of us have with this is not knowing any of the details and fearing that we might miss an opportunity. We don’t know what to do with ourselves during the wait, but God tells us exactly what to do, and one of those things is to be of good courage. This means that we are to encourage ourselves through God’s Word. We need to feed our minds and hearts scriptures that remind us of God’s faithfulness and encourage us to keep the faith. Lamentations 3:25(ESV) says, “The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him.” We need to keep verses like this before us and remind ourselves continually of what God has said.

When I was in high school, I really liked a young man, but he didn’t pay me much attention. I prayed and asked God to help me find a way to impress this guy, because I wanted so badly to capture his attention. God knew the heart of this young man, and he was certainly not for me, but I was young. I wanted what I wanted. Heavenly Father spoke to my heart in many ways, and He let me know that I didn’t have to do anything to make someone like me. All I had to do was wait on Him. I knew in my heart that this young man wasn’t for me and that God had something better for my life.

After a while, I became antsy because I wasn’t seeing this ‘something better’ and I wanted someone to love. I took matters into my own hands and eventually asked the guy out. He told me that he didn’t like girls that wear glasses. My little heart was broken, and my ego was shattered into little pieces. I thought to myself, I should’ve listened to God in the first place, and I wouldn’t be in this emotional mess. I cried my eyes out for weeks, but a few months later, I met the nicest young man while I was visiting my grandfather in Atlanta. This young man loved the Lord and was very kind to me. Although that was a long time ago, I learned patience and many other lessons through that whole experience.

The prophet, Isaiah, said in Isaiah 64:4(NLT), “For since the world began, no ear has heard and no eye has seen a God like you, who works for those who wait for him!” God’s timing is always perfect, and waiting on Him teaches us to trust that He knows what is best for our lives. Sometimes God gives us exactly what we’ve prayed for, and sometimes His answer looks very different from what we expected. Either way, we can trust His wisdom. God knows what we need, and He knows how to lead us into what He has planned for us.

We don’t have to feel pressed to hurry things along. He tells us to be strong and of a good courage, and this is exactly what we must do. Wait on the Lord! Don’t be impetuous and do something you’ll regret. Use your time wisely and do the things that strengthen your heart towards God. Waiting time is not wasted time when we allow God to use it to grow us, teach us, and deepen our trust in Him. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

English Standard Version (ESV)
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Text Edition: 2016. Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

“God’s Timing Is Always Perfect”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

July 10, 2026
I Can’t Wait to Get Married!

Many of God’s promises inspire hope and excitement in us, but there are two simply written and powerful scriptures that will help to build our faith in marriage. The first is John 10:10(NKJV). In this verse, Jesus Christ declared, “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have [it] more abundantly.” An abundant life would be very satisfying to most of us, but a more than abundant life is our privilege and blessing if we have accepted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. It is possible because this is what God wants for us, and if we trust in His provision with our whole hearts, our faith in God’s Will for our lives will cause His blessings to manifest.

A more than abundant life didn’t exist before Jesus Christ came to the earth and gave his life on the cross of Calvary. Before the finished work of his sacrifice and resurrection, there were rich and wealthy people, beautiful people, intelligent people, and very talented people. However, the wisdom of God’s Word teaches us that it doesn’t matter how wealthy, beautiful, wise, and talented a person may be, if they haven’t made Jesus Christ, Lord, they will not live a more than abundant life. Ephesians 1:3 tells us that He has blessed us with all spiritual blessings because of our union with Christ. This reveals that the boldness, strength, ability, power, authority, and love that we receive from the Holy Spirit because of the sacrifice and resurrection of Christ, these are the true marks of abundance.

The declaration of Jesus Christ in John 10:10 is so awesomely important to our aspiration for marriage because it informs us of what God has already made available to the believer, yet many of pray as if He hasn’t. The blessing of unequalled abundance is contained within Christ. It is revealed as we live as Christ lived, minister as he ministered, share as he shared and love as he loves. Many single believers are praying to meet ‘the one’. They are seeking God for the blessing of crossing paths with the person that will walk with them through life. This blessing is naturally unfolded as we seek to fulfill the Will of God—as the Will of God becomes the most important pursuit of our lives.

Many women believe that having a husband is the pinnacle of a more than abundant life. This isn’t true. Loving God through Jesus Christ is the pinnacle of bounty in every way, and we simply can’t be confused about this. We’re over the moon with excitement over the prospect of getting married, but our enthusiasm for it should never exceed our excitement and joy about the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. 2Corinthians 3:5(NLT) tells us, “Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think of anything as [being] from ourselves, but our sufficiency [is] from God.” This is another promise that God has made to us. He is our sufficiency, and we cannot think that another human being can fill this position. No matter how rich, handsome, talented, and charming the man may be, he cannot make us whole.

A major shift in priorities must happen for many women that desire marriage. None of us are qualified or sufficient on our own to be wives. It’s God who qualifies us for this ministry. It’s all about our Heavenly Father and the enthusiasm and attentiveness that we demonstrate towards our relationship with Him. This must be evident in the way that we conduct ourselves as followers of Christ. Philippians 4:19(NLT) says, “And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from his glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” He alone supplies all our needs. So, while we might feel excited and can’t wait to be married, let’s make sure that honoring God is our top priority. He is happy to bless us with marriage. It will beautifully unfold when fulfilling His purpose and following the example of Jesus Christ is the great joy and delight of our lives.■

Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“I Can’t Wait to Be Married!”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

April 9, 2026
Why Your Current Approach Isn’t Leading You to Marriage

As modern Christians, we’ve received more revelation about God’s Word than perhaps any other time in human history. We’ve become sophisticated in formulating our thoughts and expressing our opinions about some aspects of His truth. It’s important we know that this can potentially cause more damage than good. Many of us have refused to allow the sovereignty of God and the order He established in the Old Testament to shape our reverence for Him under the new covenant that Christ has ushered in. Our Lord and Savior said in Matthew 5:17(NKJV), “Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.” Jesus Christ came to do what we couldn’t do for ourselves. He restored our relationship with God, and because of this, we’ve been given the privilege to fully live and express His love and to do extraordinary works in the earth.

Jesus Christ said in John 14:12(NKJV), “Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father.” As incredible as it may be to grasp, God has empowered us to do greater works above and beyond even those that our powerful Lord and Savior did when he carried forth his ministry on earth. Jesus Christ didn’t preach to the masses all over the world the way that we can, because the technology wasn’t available then. He couldn’t get on a plane and deliver food and support to those in other countries, but because of what God accomplished through Christ, we can do these things and so much more.

Our Heavenly Father tells us in Ephesians 1:3 that He’s blessed us with all spiritual blessings because of our union with Christ. It is His expectation that we will use the power, intelligence, and other spiritual blessings that He has provided. He expects us to step outside our comfort zones and be a blessing to others to our fullest potential. This is His Will, and we must remember continually that when it comes to our existences on earth, it isn’t our agenda we’re pursuing, it’s His.

Sadly, this memory about why we’re here gets a little foggy for many of us. We forget that we must seek God’s Will in all that we attempt to do, and that we must follow His Word to remain activated in the faith of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. In Deuteronomy 11:26-28(NLT), God told His people living in Old Testament times, “26 “Look, today I am giving you the choice between a blessing and a curse! 27 You will be blessed if you obey the commands of the LORD your God that I am giving you today. 28 But you will be cursed if you reject the commands of the LORD your God and turn away from him and worship gods you have not known before.” This standard of trusting God preeminently and following His Word faithfully has not changed. The blessing is contained in His Word, and it is unveiled in our lives as we walk upon His Word.

For some women, the approach to their quest for marriage is a concoction of socially accepted norms with little sprinkles of God’s standard here and there. When this is our approach, the results we receive will equal our lack of commitment to honor what God says. People whose hearts are not fully anchored in God have their treasures here on earth. Jesus Christ tells us in Matthew 6:19 that those will decay, be corrupted or stolen. That’s not where we want to be.

Our Lord and Master commands in Matthew 6:20(NLT), “Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal.” When our treasures are in heaven, the home of our all-powerful, glorious God, our hearts will be there too. We will shift our approach to the one that Jesus Christ requires in Matthew 6:33(NLT), which is to “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Now is not the time to feign allegiance to God’s Word and seek other avenues to the path of His blessings. That will get us nowhere. God is looking at whether and how you truly honor and love Him with your full commitment and heart. Being fully persuaded and sold out to Him through obedience and faith is the posture that releases the provisions of everything we need, including the support and care of the one God sends to walk with us through life.

The prophet said in Isaiah 48:17 (NLT) “This is what the Lord says—your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: “I am the Lord your God, who teaches you what is good for you and leads you along the paths you should follow.” We must read and study God’s Word and follow His path to marriage. The attitude of “I didn’t know” is not a valid excuse for skipping over the confessions, behaviors, thoughts, actions, and feelings that please God. His Word is too accessible for that to work. If our approach is to deny what God says, it will not lead us to marriage. The wisdom of Proverbs 21:2(NLT) says, “People may be right in their own eyes, but the Lord examines their heart.” We must have a heart that pleases the Father, and when we’re doing everything within our power to make this our reality, He will bless us with a marriage that is everything He desires it to be.■

Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Why Your Current Approach Isn’t Leading You to Marriage”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

April 2, 2026
God Knows What’s Happening to You

Jeremiah 15:15 (NLT)
“Lord, you know what’s happening to me. Please step in and help me…”

Most of us can relate to the words of Jeremiah. We are aware that God is watching our every move. We know that He sees everything we’re going through, and that He knows our pain. We’re asking Him to please step in and help us get on the other side of loneliness and sadness. Why doesn’t it happen already?! Why do we have to continue greeting loneliness everyday like a nagging friend that simply won’t go away. “Lord, will You please just send him to me and let this part of my life be over?” This is the plea in our hearts as we consider facing another morning with our uninvited friend, but we should know that it is not one that goes unanswered. Our God is a very present help, and we must trust this with every part of our hearts.

A friend said to me, “I hate feeling lonely. It’s been almost two years, and I still haven’t met anyone!” I could hear the frustration in her voice and my heart went out to her. Having a deep desire to be married without meeting the right man can be challenging, but God has not left us alone to wade through singleness with unfulfilled desires. He wants to bless us with a relationship that will lead to marriage, and the condition is that we lean and depend on Him with our whole hearts. We must strengthen our relationship with God, and this requires us to renew our minds to His Word and change the way we think.

Jeremiah 15:18-19(NLT) tells us more about Jeremiah’s plea to our Heavenly Father for help. Jeremiah asked, “18 Why then does my suffering continue? Why is my wound so incurable? Your help seems as uncertain as a seasonal brook, like a spring that has gone dry.” Verse 19 tells us, “This is how the LORD responds: “If you return to me, I will restore you so you can continue to serve me. If you speak good words rather than worthless ones, you will be my spokesman. You must influence them; do not let them influence you!”

Our Heavenly Father responded to His prophet Jeremiah with a code of conduct that opens the doors of His blessings. The prophet was really struggling in his mind and heart to fully trust God. He even went as far as to say that God’s help seemed uncertain. This was not the way to honor our Heavenly Father. It wasn’t the kind of thinking that conveys faith, but rather, it conveys doubt.

In God’s response, He told Jeremiah that if he would return to Him, restoration would occur. Jeremiah had turned away from God when he allowed his faith to diminish. He began to do what many of us do today, which is to speak worthless words of doubt and unbelief. Our Heavenly Father makes it clear that these are not words that glorify Him. He is not pleased with them, and He cannot reward a mindset and attitude like that. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 12:36(NLT), “And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak.” We must be ever so careful to speak good words that express the goodness of our God and the perfection of His love and power.

Our Heavenly Father also said something else to Jeremiah that was really extraordinary. He said, “You must influence them; do not let them influence you!” This is God’s expectation for our conduct towards anyone that we meet and date. So often, we are influenced to do things that are contrary to God’s Will and Word, and this is something we must overcome. Not only must we demonstrate discipline over these temptations, but we must completely flip the script so that we assume the role of being an influencer for Christ. If we’re not prepared to do this, we’re not moving as quickly towards our desires as we could be.

One of the greatest tricks of the enemy is to convince us that we are powerless, hopeless, and without love. This is not the truth. God knows what is happening to us every moment of our lives, and He is always causing things to work together for our good. Our responsibility as born-again believers is to trust in His Word. God’s love is our confidence, and His truth is life to us! So, we must confess what God says is true, and not what we think is true. We have to wake up and recognize that every decision we make today will shape and mold our tomorrows, so we must make our words and actions count. There must be a shift in our thinking to trust God more and focus on ourselves less. When we follow this code of conduct, we will witness movement in our desires, and it will increase in momentum as we continually speak, think, and act like Christ.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“God Knows What Is Happening to You”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

March 26, 2026
Your Face Mirrors Your Heart

Proverbs 27:19 (MSG)
“Just as water mirrors your face, so your face mirrors your heart.”

A while ago, I met up with two friends and both were having issues in their relationships. One was struggling with whether to remain in his marriage, and the other was frustrated because her significant other was reluctant to get married after being together three years. Neither of my friends were happy and their faces told the whole story.

Proverbs 27:19 tells us that just as water will reflect our face, our faces will reflect what is in our hearts. Sometimes what is in our hearts is a lot of hurt and confusion about the relationships that mean the most to us. We want them to last, but the other person isn’t who we hoped they’d be, and we don’t know what to do with the disappointment. Should we stay and try to make things work, or should we cut our losses and hope for a better future with someone else?

Society’s proverbial wisdom says, “Do what is in your heart.” We hear things like, “Let your heart be your guide.” This isn’t the wisdom that God teaches in His Word. Jeremiah 17:9(NLT) tells us, “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” So, letting our hearts govern our decisions is never a wise choice. In fact, it can lead to very unsatisfactory results. Our Heavenly Father tells us in Proverbs 3:5-6 to trust in Him with all our hearts. He tells us not to lean on our own understanding but seek His Will in all that we do. When this is our practice, He promises to direct and show us which path to choose.

The heart that God speaks about in Jeremiah 17:9 isn’t referring to the one that pumps blood throughout our physical bodies. He’s informing us about the heart that is the seat of our being. It’s the one that we can’t hold in our hands, but our hearts are so essential to our relationship with God that He tells us every ounce of it must be dedicated to loving and trusting Him. 2Timothy 2:22(NLT) tells us, “Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.” Purity of heart leads to happiness and having this kind of heart should be our greatest ambition because it pleases God.

2Corinthians 9:8 teaches us that God is our sufficiency. He knows everything, and rather than trying to figure out things on our own, He tells us to seek Him with all our hearts. We need to do this even when we’re disappointed or betrayed by someone we trusted to be in our corners. Sometimes, it isn’t all about what they’ve done, but how we’ve responded to what they’ve done. Just as our hearts are reflected on our faces, our significant others are a mirror for us as well. They reflect that we need to renew our minds and put on more of God’s love. We need to be the change we want to see.

To tell someone to let go of a relationship when they’re not ready is almost always a useless exercise. Likewise, to convince someone they are ending a relationship unwisely and without the counsel of God is also sometimes just as futile. People have their own way of thinking and processing emotions, but if they are not motivated out of a heart that is full of the love of Christ, they can set themselves back big time. God’s Word tells us in Ephesians 4:32(NLT),“Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” This is God standard, and it must govern the way we treat all our brothers and sisters in Christ, including those that have disappointed us.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Your Face Mirrors Your Heart”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

March 19, 2026
Everybody Needs Somebody

John 13:34(NLT)
“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.”

Everybody will need somebody at some point. It’s a fact of life, and it is how God designed life to work. We need Him, that’s a truth that can’t be denied, but to enjoy our earth experience to the fullest, we also need other people. Our Heavenly Father has specific standards and guidelines in His Word, and these govern how He says we ought to treat and value one another. He said in Ephesians 4:31-32(NLT), “31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. 32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” This will ensure that our hearts are like a magnet, drawing the love and company of those who love the Lord as we do, and having an attitude of forgiveness is one that sets all this in motion.

Having an attitude of forgiveness is also a struggle for some people. For whatever reason, holding onto resentment and grudges for those that have wronged them becomes their way of facing life each day, but this isn’t what our Heavenly Father wants. It’s a difficult, demanding, and cold world we live in, and frustrating things are happening all the time. Our Lord and Savior didn’t keep this a secret from us. He told the disciples in John 16:33(NLT), “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.” Over two thousand years later, this is still very much the case. The trouble that our Lord and Savior pointed to is still with us, but we can’t forget the Good News that he also shares with us. He gives us a peace that passes all understanding, and by leaning totally on him in faith and walking in his Spirit, we are victorious on every hand.

With this kind of victory, our hearts should be filled to overflowing with love for God and everyone else. We know this, but when people injure us deeply, we sometimes find it hard to forget the sting of the pain they’ve caused. They were selfish, thoughtless, and irritated us beyond what we could tolerate. It touched that place inside that we don’t want touched. Rather than love and forgive them, some of us have used anger and bitterness to seal up the walls of our hearts because of the damage this person has done.

God tells us in Ephesians 4:31(NLT), “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.” There are tons of reasons why we choose to harbor feelings that prompt the wrong behaviors. The important thing for us to know is that these behaviors and feelings can keep people away from us. We can become so full of fear from the pain we’ve experienced that we won’t let anyone in.

I know more than a few people that have done this. They want so desperately to meet the Godly person that He sends to walk with them through life, but they are terrified to allow themselves to love fully because of the fear of being hurt.

Everybody needs somebody, and we never know when we’re going to need somebody the most. We need to keep a heart that is open so that we can be a blessing to others, and they can be a blessing to us. Jesus Christ said in Matthew 5:8(NLT), “God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God.” Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, has freed us from every kind of prison, and we shouldn’t let anything in this world cause us to put chains around our hearts ever again. We can’t live from a place of fear or bitterness and have the kind of life that God wants us to live. We need to lay down those things and keep our hearts open with love for God and a tenderhearted, compassionate, and forgiving love for others.■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“Everybody Needs Somebody”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

March 12, 2026
I Have to Make a Change

After a friend went MIA for a little over a month, she shared with me that she had decided to make some changes to her physical appearance. As women that have been praying a long time to meet the man that God will send, we often place ourselves under a lot of scrutiny. We might begin to find fault with our appearance and think that our flaws are impeding our progress towards the intended goal. I had no idea that my friend was feeling insecure in any way. She’s a very accomplished person and always seems to be so confident in herself. I was surprised to hear that she wasn’t happy with what she sees in the mirror. She decided to have surgery, and said to me, “This change is exactly what I needed, and I’m so glad I did it.”

Many of us want to be thinner, smarter, more attractive, or richer. In our modern times, for a fee, there are several avenues available to make just about any change that we want to ourselves. Likewise, there are also varying motivations behind a person’s desire to make these changes in their lives, but often they find that changing the outside doesn’t change the inside. Whatever a person’s motive may be, real transformation starts with renewing our minds to the Word of God. His wisdom teaches us that transformation will always begin from the inside out.

There are tons of God’s people that are not happy with their lives, and it is usually because becoming more like Christ is not their highest priority. In some cases, it’s the furthest thing from their minds. They want their lives to completely change from what it’s been. They want to leave the old behind and embark on a new chapter, but the only way to do this is to turn our focus away from ourselves and onto God through the Lord Jesus Christ. We must allow for the possibility that what needs to change is our attitude and commitment towards the Father.

We must be ever so careful that our desires do not blind our eyes to the greatness of what God has revealed to us in Christ. 2 Corinthians 3:18 (NLT) says, “So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image.” God wants us to become more like Jesus Christ with each passing day. We are right that change is necessary to bring about a change in our circumstances. Change is necessary to take us to the next level of blessings, but that change must occur in our minds and hearts first, and then everything else follows.

In Isaiah 43:15-19 (NLT), God said, “15 I am the LORD, your Holy One, Israel’s Creator and King. 16 I am the LORD, who opened a way through the waters, making a dry path through the sea. 17 I called forth the mighty army of Egypt with all its chariots and horses. I drew them beneath the waves, and they drowned, their lives snuffed out like a smoldering candlewick. 18 “But forget all that—it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. 19 For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.”

God has begun a new work within us through Jesus Christ, and He is sure to finish what He started. Let’s not make the mistake of overlooking the obvious. We must be extremely thankful for what God has already done for us in our lives, but sometimes we lack the level of gratitude for Him that we should have. Instead of growing deeper in our relationship with our Heavenly Father, we seek other things. If we want a meaningful and fulfilling existence, we have to change this. Real change begins when our way of living, behaving, thinking and being is drenched and running over with our love for God and our willingness to please Him. When this is our aim, our hearts will be transformed, and our lives will follow. ■

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“I Have to Make a Change”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

March 5, 2026
He’s Mine Forever

Psalm 73:25-26 (NLT)
“25 Whom have I in heaven but you? I desire you more than anything on earth. 26 My health may fail, and my spirit may grow weak, but God remains the strength of my heart; he is mine forever.”

If you’ve been in a significant relationship for a few years, and then things fall apart, the absence of having this person in your life can be deafening. When we’re in a relationship, we rarely consider the pain, anxiety, and lasting consequences that follow a breakup. These are not welcomed visitors, but they can come without invitation. We got too comfortable and for some of us, this was a trap. Without being conscious of it, “He’s mine forever” began to play in the background of our minds, and we bought into this even though the man never promised it, and his actions never conveyed it.

Discernment
The harsh reality is that pain is often our greatest teacher. It should teach us to guard our hearts, to be careful about who we let into our lives, and to be as patient with God as possible, especially when we’re figuring out exactly what we’re working with in the discernment phase of the relationship. It should also teach us that we desperately need God’s help with the rugged terrain of relationships. It’s arguably the area that we need spiritual discernment most. We need this sharpened spiritual tool to steer clear of men that will ultimately be harmful to our walk with the Father through Jesus Christ. They can cause us to go backward instead of forward, and when we get caught up in this, we can potentially miss the one God has sent.

We need to know that it’s possible to miss a blessing. People do it all the time. Proverbs 3:5-6(NLT) says, “5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. 6 Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” The wrong path will set us up for failure, but in every case, the right path will lead us to God’s blessings. He’s the One who shows us which path to take. If we lean on Him, we’ll have the discernment to know what is for us and what isn’t.

Learn to love appropriately

The Apostle Paul said in Philippians 1:9-11(The Message) says, “So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush. Live a lover’s life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God.” Romantic love isn’t primary. Loving a man through the love of Jesus Christ is most important to our Heavenly Father, and this is the kind of love that overcomes all obstacles.

God’s wisdom teaches us that “He’s mine forever” is not the right attitude when there’s no ring on our fingers. We know from experience that sometimes relationships do not stand the test of time; only our relationship with God through Jesus Christ will last forever. So, we must be so careful not to place all our eggs in another individual’s basket. We need to be anchored in God. Only He is worthy of all our trust. The psalmist said in Psalm 73:25 that he desired God more than anything else. This should be the passion of our hearts as well. When it is, we will walk with the Lord, and be guided by Him. Then we can trust what He has for us with all our hearts. ■

Scripture taken from The Message. Copyright ©1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved.

“He’s Mine Forever”, written for findchristianman.wordpress.com. Copyright©2026. All rights reserved. All done to the glory of God through Jesus Christ, our Lord.

February 26, 2026